and i said to my body. softly. ‘i want to be your friend.’ it took a long breath. and replied, ‘i have been waiting my whole life for this.’
The Fat Femme Wedding
Spring is here again and it’s time to share some plus size, queer femme, wedded bliss. The four of us (myself, Lauren, Kelly, and Rachel) had a lovely time modeling some gorgeous plus size ModCloth wedding and bridesmaid gowns.
The union took place on a cool spring day in a Logan Square park. We were surprised by a sweet kitty who joined us for some photos. After the ceremony, we headed to adorable local bakery Paper Moon Bakery for vegan treats and enjoyed the beautiful floral and succulent centerpieces.
It was a perfect day. Fantastical Chicago-local floral designers Green and Gold provided the beautiful hair pieces, shoulder piece and centerpieces. Hairstylist Anna Jackson did a gorgeous job styling our lovely locks. MUA and nail designer Gina ‘Gigi’ Lira made our faces look even more delightful with her custom lip colors (I NEED MINE IN A TUBE - it’s the most perfect shade of purple pink!). Nail polish was provided by fat femme indie nail polish brand PLUMP (colors Fupa and Crop Top Goth)
Adrift on a Cloud white lace dress - Sz 24 (this dress runs quite small!), Modcloth
Waxed Denim Moto Jacket - Sz 16, H&M
Crystal Crown Tiara - ManIsFive
Tights - Sz 1x, Target
Black Doc Martens, model’s own
Glitz & Enamor blush sequin dress - Sz 24, Modcloth
Martha’s Ride No. 2 pearl bracelet, King Onye
Hair jewelry - Frond and On Necklace, Modcloth
Silver wedges - model’s own
Floral Shoulder piece - Green and Gold
All Over Elegance cream chiffon and lace dress - Sz 14, Modcloth
Rose Quartz necklace - LovelyMusings Etsy
Snake Arm Band - model’s own
Lace Tights - model’s own
Floral Doc Martens - model’s own
Floral headpiece - Green and Gold
All the details
- Kelly’s art tumblr. Kelly’s curation tumblr. Kelly’s band.
- Rachel’s high-praised food blog, Dinner Was Delicious.
- Lauren’s art portfolio and personal tumblr
- I think you all know me, Amanda but you should follow my instagram!
this is important
I’m sorry, what was that about fat people not being able to pole dance?????
What was that about fat people not having agility and the strength to do dance moves and shit while fat???
WHAT WAS THAT?
In 'Every breath we drew' photographer Jess Dugan presents a collection of intimate and revealing self-portraits and portraits of others. Through the image-making process Dugan explores the power of identity, desire, connection and her own sexuality.
I find it interesting that the photos of me that gather the most attention are those that are taken from “unflattering” angles. I wonder if people are trying to find love for themselves when I flaunt my belly, my hips, my thighs. I wonder when I gave myself permission to do so. Years ago I would have been horrified to post a picture that had not been liquefied or narrowed. Now I am broader, and so are my horizons- my ability to see that a line is not broken because it is thicker.
One of these days I will learn to stop dressing my body like it is an apology, but right now all I know is this: I only feel beautiful when I dance. So I will dance. Unapologetically, unabashedly, until the rest of me catches up with the flight I have started.
This is beautiful.
Crop Top Goth is named for one of our favorite beach babes, Seattle-based Kim Selling of theavantguard.tumblr.com. It features a witchy black base and extra-fine silver holographic glitters, which look nothing short of magical under direct sunlight.
We got the guy behind this infamous tattoo to model Crop Top Goth for us! Thanks John!
Ooh I really want this one, the holo looks great. Also I love this dude modeling.
‘Just because I love my body doesn’t mean I’m not trans. Stop gender policing.’
Only tiny part of my self-portrait shoot for Photo II.© 2013 Dino Rowan
Remove credit and I’ll send the dinosaurs after you.
<3! Yeah, it’s fine to be trans or trans* spectrum and to not be happy with “everyone should love their body” sentiments, but I definitely don’t like the hundred or so times I’ve seen it phrased as though all trans people are the same and have the same story. Not inclusive and not accurate.
For that matter, and granted I fall a little outside the trans community as an agender person, but I have way more shame and self-doubt about NOT having dysphoria than I do on the (much rarer) occasions that I just wish all my sex markers would go away, precisely because of things like that.
Hello hello how about a giveaway?
I want to celebrate hitting 5000 followers and say thank you to all the people who have supported me since I started Fancy Lady Industries. How better than to giveaway stuff?!
This prize consists of
- a blue fat necklace
- a magenta vain necklace
- a white no diet talk brooch
- a fluoro pink big girls donut cry patch
- tonnes of postcards
All up it’s worth about AUD$90 and I’ll probably throw in a zine too for good measure :D
Rules and other info
- Reblogs count as 1 entry, likes do not count.
- Reblog as many times as you like, each reblog counts as one entry.
- No “giveaway” or empty tumblrs will be considered because that’s just not fair!
- I will draw the winner on November 1 at around lunchtime.
- I will post anywhere so long as you have an address for me to post your prize to.
- It might be a good idea to follow me so you know if I draw your name, and you probably should have an ask box so I can contact you!
Secret bonus bit
If you are following me before the prize is drawn and you’re drawn as the winner, I will include an A6 portrait of you done in ink and watercolour!
“Yesterday she Tweeted, ‘And thank to my fans who love me no matter what, and know the meaning of real beauty&compassion. I really love you,’ with a link to an image of Marilyn Monroe and Monroe’s quote, ‘To all the girls that think you’re fat because you’re not a size zero, you’re the beautiful one, its society who’s ugly.’”
Fuck the fat shamers.
WE CAN DO IT.
WHAT IS SHE LIKE TRYING TO BE FAT NOW TOO?
FUCKING STOP AND TAKE WHATEVER IT IS YOUR WEARING OFF.
stop. stop. stop. stop. stop. stop.
Ugh Lady Gaga is this catch-all kitchen sink drain ball of trendy commidified and appropriated REAL LEGITIMATE ISSUES for REAL PEOPLE
ALSO that Marilyn quote is total fabricated fuckery. “Size 0” wasn’t even a thing until Twiggy burst onto the scene, after Marilyn’s time. I hate that quote more than anything because it becomes this “go to” quote everyone gravitates toward when looking into body positivity and IT DOESN’T EVEN MAKE SENSE.
I understand people recognizing that Gaga, as a celebrity and someone who is decidedly on the thin side of average, has a lot of privilege. I even understand the complaints, a little? But she has just gotten a LOT of shit about the way she looks and her supposed fatness. I don’t think there’s actually anything wrong with this, misquote or not: it’s lampooning the press and their obsession with weight, something that can NEVER be lampooned or criticized too much.
She’s not trying to “be fat”. She’s not trying to appropriate a trend or a movement. She’s DEALING WITH HER OWN LIFE and the shit people are saying about her and the agency they’re trying to take away from her and her clothing/performance/dietary/life choices. Criticizing this outfit is even more pointless: the entire outfit is a big fuck you.
She has done some AWFUL shit in her time, and I don’t like her very much at all, but it’s not cool to tear someone with a self-reported eating disorder down for being emaciated and then tear them apart for gaining 30 pounds, if that’s even true. Every celebrity has had to deal with this utter bullshit of paparazzi trying to make a story out of them eating burgers or having a muffin top and while it’s not the same as systemic fat hatred, it contributes to it.
And you know what, if some “Little Monster” out there has a moment of self love or recognizes that their body is okay because Gaga posted some misquoted Marilyn Monroe, then GOOD. And you know what, if SHE has a moment of anger that turns into self love, then good for her too.