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It’s Almost Summer! Time for: Street Harassment

ohwhatatragiccost:

Maybe it’s just that more hours of daylight = more people on the streets and more people just means more opportunity but I do know it’s what I dread most about warm weather in Chicago. I do know that I’m hit on by strangers most days, asked for hugs by people I don’t know, talked to by bus drivers about sexuality and pornography, shouted at and catcalled from moving vehicles, and generally shamed for being a person with breasts.

Today when I got on the bus I failed to notice that the man next to me had his hand placed across the back of three seats (there was an empty seat between us). I accidentally bumped his hand with my back and he thought that made it okay to laugh and grab my side, a few inches from my breast, and give it a tickling squeeze. I looked directly at him and said, “No. I don’t know you.” He responded by telling me I “could get to know (him) tonight.”

At that point I flipped out and started shouting at him. Like most people who were raised female, I generally let comments slide for my own well being. I’ve been conditioned, and it’s often true, that my emotional and physical safety requires a certain amount of acquiescence to advances by strangers. This is fucked up. This is wrong. But it’s also true. Being passive has probably kept me safe numerous times. But this man touched me without my consent and then didn’t back down when I told him to stop. I shouted in a half full bus that you, “can’t touch or talk to people you don’t know,” and continued shouting at him for probably 20-30 more seconds. I don’t remember exactly what I said but I know some guys did a bro-y thing suggesting he lay off but also trying to put me in my place by reminding him mostly that he wasn’t going to get sex from me. My wife suggested a different open seat and I promptly moved away from the guy, who was still acting like he just bumped me (I know when people bump into me I close my hand around parts of their body repeatedly while laughing and telling me how we can get to know one another).

A moment later, another woman sat down next to him. He pulled the same move on her, grabbed her near her side/breast area. Instead of shouting at him, she quietly moved to another seat at the back of the bus. As she walked away he said, “I appreciate you.” I saw this and, being fed up, I went shakily up to the bus driver and reported what he’d done. The driver responded appropriately and pulled the bus over at the next stop to confront the man. He told me if the man didn’t leave on his own, he’d call the police. The man left voluntarily, and I was glad.

But even as I did this, the right thing, the brave thing, stopping someone from immediately groping another person, I felt ashamed. I felt guilty for causing the bus to stop, for making a scene. I knew other people were looking at me as the cause of the problem as opposed to the man who’d touched me. I cried as I waited for my stop and had to pause when I got to the store to collect myself. I’m an outspoken person. I call people out on a lot of shit. But doing what I knew I should, telling a creep to get lost and then intervening when I saw that what happened to me wasn’t a one off incident, still scared and upset me because I know how society treats people who act out against sexual harassment and assault.

We shame people who stand up for themselves and for others, we tell them they’re making a big deal out of nothing, we tell them they’re wrong, and we make it clear that they’re wasting our time. Only my wife really stood up for me when the man told the bus driver I was being “spoiled” and that I’d been the one shoving him. Dozens of people saw the man touch me, heard him acting like I was crazy for not wanting a stranger to grab me and make sexual suggestions about me. No one helped. I had to help myself.

But I did the right thing. I was scared and shaking and crying and ashamed but I wasn’t the one in the wrong. Calling someone out for harassing or hurting you isn’t ever the wrong thing unless you make the decision not to for your own well being. If you choose not to talk about something for your own safety, you made the right choice for you. If you choose to tell someone to stop and that what they’re doing to or saying about your body isn’t okay, you made the right choice for you.

You are not inconveniencing anyone. They inconvenienced the people around them when they overstepped their place and touched or spoke to you in a way that made you feel scared or ashamed or uncomfortable. You are not the jerk in this situation. Remember that. Remember every day that millions and millions of people are harassed and they say nothing because society told them not to, or they say something and are treated like freaks because society told them to stay silent. This summer, and always, remember you are not alone. You aren’t a freak. You, and only you, have the right to say what should and should not happen to your own body. Remember that.

Hey my wife is a badass.

I have nothing to add to this except rageface and a sense of vague disappointment in myself that I didn’t do more. 

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Resources for Male Survivors

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I posted last week asking people if they knew of some good resources for male victims of sexual assault. Here is the list people came up with:

www.malesurvivor.org

www.violenceunsilenced.com

www.rainn.org

www.pandys.org

www.1in6.org

www.soulspeakout.org

http://finallyfeminism101.wordpress.com/

Thanks everyone!

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Feminists Install Temporary Memorial to Rape Survivors on Washington Mall





by Sarah Mirk on February 15, 2013 - 10:34am


The National Mall got a new memorial yesterday, if only briefly. As part of One Billion Rising, Baltimore-based feminist group FORCE installed a temporary memorial recognizing survivors of sexual assault. The group greated giant letters out of a statement from a rape survivor and floated the eight-foot-tall words onto the reflecting pool in front of the Lincoln Memorial. 
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Feminists Install Temporary Memorial to Rape Survivors on Washington Mall

by Sarah Mirk on February 15, 2013 - 10:34am

The National Mall got a new memorial yesterday, if only briefly. As part of One Billion Rising, Baltimore-based feminist group FORCE installed a temporary memorial recognizing survivors of sexual assault. The group greated giant letters out of a statement from a rape survivor and floated the eight-foot-tall words onto the reflecting pool in front of the Lincoln Memorial. 

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(via CNN Anchor Brilliantly Tricks Her Sexist Guest Into Accidentally Endorsing Racism On Live TV)

I love how hard this guy tries to backpedal as he realizes he’s just agreed with a huge racist.

It also pisses me right off that he’s like “WELL WOMEN ARE HAVING SEX AND GETTING PREGNANT”. Yes, this may be true, but we also have a military that won’t pay for abortion, even in the case of rape, and most likely doesn’t provide birth control to women either because of federal funding — so they’re ensuring that women will be removed from units even if it’s because they can’t keep the men in those units from NOT RAPING PEOPLE. I’m guessing a lot of those women “sent home because of pregnancy” weren’t having tons of fun sex. Some might have been! Good for them! But I’m guessing there aren’t as many as he claims there are.

Also, the servicemember here looks like she is thinking really hard about ways not to kill someone. 

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A survey of 11-to-14 year-olds found:
· 51% of the boys and 41% of the girls said forced sex was acceptable if the boy, “spent a lot of money” on the girl;
· 31% of the boys and 32% of the girls said it was acceptable for a man to rape a woman with past sexual experience;
· 87% of boys and 79% of girls said sexual assault was acceptable if the man and the woman were married;
· 65% of the boys and 47% of the girls said it was acceptable for a boy to rape a girl if they had been dating for more than six months.

Societal Attitudes Supporting Rape (via searchingforavila)

This is fucking scary, and it shows that we do live in a “rape culture” in which abusers and rapists have little idea that they are doing something wrong. My abuser didn’t….

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In which we despair for the universe…

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There are so many of these horrible survey results, and everyone should know them and then tell me there’s no such thing as misogyny and rape culture.

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Jesus christ.

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TRIGGER WARNING LIKE WHOA.

I cannot even…whoa. We need to be talking about these things with our kids earlier.

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Women's Rights Petition: Secretary of Defense: Require military to register as sex offenders | Change.org

I learned that under current military law no member of the military is required to register as a sex offender or disclose their crimes on their discharge papers. Without these types of protections, sex offenders are able to leave the military with a completely clean slate, eligible to collect from military benefits, and free to apply for jobs and positions that would normally be off limits to sex offenders. When you hire a veteran, you assume you are working with someone who is trustworthy and has a clean record.  Most of the time this is true, but not always.  Most veterans are honorable men and women who have served our country, but there are some who have committed serious crimes like rape and sexual assault during their service and the military has a responsibility to disclose that information for the sake of the public good.

When asked why sex offenders do not have to disclose on their discharge papers, some of the responses I was given were: 1) It will take too long to create a national database or 2) The military is going green and it takes too much paper to add an extra check box to discharge papers.

This is part of a larger issue of rape within the military. Some estimates reveal that more than ⅓ of women in the armed services are raped during their service.  If you serve in the US military and you rape or sexually assault a fellow service member you have a 86.5% chance of keeping the crime a secret and a 92% chance of avoiding court martial.

Please sign this.

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(This is a continuation of this thread, which I think is important to note, but I’m reblogging for the continued commentary.)

pluckypalaeontologist:

adventuresofcomicbookgirl:

sharpestrose:

I think Zack Snyder is a generally underestimated and too quickly dismissed creator. To be fair, I haven’t seen 300 or that owl movie, but I kind of appreciate his audacity in taking movies that “can’t” be made because omg sacrilege — a Dawn of the Dead remake, Watchmen — and serving up something quite wry and self-aware and cheesy and fun.

But wow that is way off the point and I won’t ramble about it right now. My actual point is that (and again I haven’t seen 300, which I’m pretty sure would totally nix this argument from what I know of it, alas) just because Snyder makes movies where terrible things happen to women doesn’t automatically put him in the Christopher Nolan basket. Most of the women in Dawn of the Dead are way more fleshed out than the men.

And appalling things happen to women in Sucker Punch but that’s exactly how the viewer feels about it — appalled. There are a lot of sexy things in that movie but the horrible things are HORRIBLE, they’re not part of the candy.   

I don’t know, you can have an opinion like that, but I think this woman’s opinion is just as valid. She saw the movie too, and I’m pretty tired of seeing guys *deconstruct* sexism by catering to it. They get to do that because they’re guys, and WB wouldn’t have accepted this movie if it wasn’t about sexy ladies catering to adolescent fantasy on the outside, let’s be real.  I haven’t seen it, but I don’t really want to. I don’t want to see a movie about grown ladies in pigtails and schoolgirl outfits having gross stuff happen to them even if it is in the name of deconstruction. I don’t want to see dollhouse for the same reasons. And so. If she came out of the movie and decided it didn’t do a good job of deconstructing, that is was basically just masquerading as empowerment, I think that’s her prerogative.

I also appreciate her mentioning WB’s whitewashing.

That’s really a big part of what I mean when I say she missed the point, though.  I mean even besides the ‘no cohesive plot’ thing, which is about as true as ‘Inception was difficult to understand’, it’s not meant to be an empowering story.  The whole point of the story is that this group of young women are being victimised by people in the context of a deeply misogynistic system.  They take what power they can, but it’s a fucked situation and so too is every one of their options.  At the heart of it, it’s not about empowering the victims, it’s about shining a light on those who are complicit in the systems that victimise them.

As someone who has lived through a whole lot of “gross stuff”, this movie reached out and took my hand in a way that no other media has, and it did so effortlessly.  And as such, I found her comments about “women not being that stupid”, and that it was meaningless and without nuance, to be entirely offensive.  Like, wow, thanks!  Way to shit on me for getting something meaningful out of it just because you didn’t :’)

So no, I don’t think her criticism is equally valid; if she was criticising its actual goals and finding it wanting, that would be one thing.  But she found it wanting of something it was never trying to do.

eta i should also take the time to mention that while WB’s whitewashing of Akira is creepy and racist and fucking disgusting on every possible level, it’s also has virtually nothing to do with Sucker Punch, so I didn’t see any point in mentioning it in the body of the post.  But I don’t want people passing over this conversation to be wondering why I didn’t address the white washing comment, so.  That’s the context.

Um…yeah. I have pretty much nothing else to say to this. I feel like Sucker Punch is actually an incredibly POIGNANT movie for reasons far beyond action eye candy. Maybe I don’t have a right to that feeling because I’m not a survivor, but that just makes me lucky, not inexperienced with people in my life who have gone through that.

Actually I do want to drag in something that keeps being brought up without comment. I think that, although it and Dollhouse are very dissimilar in some ways, the reasons people compare Sucker Punch to Dollhouse negatively are the same reasons the two are both powerful: they have disturbing concepts and they trust their viewers to know that just because something is on a screen doesn’t mean that we should think it’s right or that it’s being glorified. To write it off as “gross things happening to girls in schoolgirl uniforms in the name of deconstruction” without watching it is pretty damn ignorant, in my opinion.

Dollhouse talks about not only rape but complicity and survival and dissociation and rape culture (and the handwaving around it), and on a wider scale intersectionality and systemic injustice and corporate depersonalization, in a way that very little media ever does, and it doesn’t have to TALK about it to talk about it, if that makes sense. The writers actually assume that we GET these things and that the message will sink in. And it also allows these things to be talked about without making someone’s entire life or character ABOUT those things, necessarily. Joss has made some mistakes, but that show wasn’t one of them and it knew EXACTLY how fucked up it was. In some ways, it seemed a lot larger and subtler than I can ever quite give Joss Whedon credit for, like it had a life of its own. (Plus Eliza Dushku being one of the writer/creators probably helped.)

Um, anyway, Sucker Punch. I just…I feel so strongly about Sucker Punch being good and important and maybe not the clearest written but EMOTIONALLY SOUND that I get angry about these arguments, so I’m going to stop.

Also I cannot stand that vlogger. Unpopular opinion.

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foulmouthedliberty:

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TRIGGER WARNING SEXUAL ASSAULT
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gardensgrey:

You won’t see Hillary Clinton in the same light ever again. Read Meryl Streep’s introduction of Hillary Clinton during the recent 2012 Women in the World conference:
Two years ago when Tina Brown and Diane von Furstenberg first envisioned this conference, they asked me to do a play, a reading, called – the name of the play was called Seven. It was taken from transcripts, real testimony from real women activists around the world. I was the Irish one, and I had no idea that the real women would be sitting in the audience while we portrayed them. So I was doing a pretty ghastly Belfast accent. I was just – I was imitating my friend Liam Neeson, really, and I sounded like a fellow. (Laughter). It was really bad.
So I was so mortified when Tina, at the end of the play, invited the real women to come up on stage and I found myself standing next to the great Inez McCormack. (Applause.) And I felt slight next to her, because I’m an actress and she is the real deal. She has put her life on the line. Six of those seven women were with us in the theater that night. The seventh, Mukhtaran Bibi, couldn’t come because she couldn’t get out of Pakistan. You probably remember who she is. She’s the young woman who went to court because she was gang-raped by men in her village as punishment for a perceived slight to their honor by her little brother. All but one of the 14 men accused were acquitted, but Mukhtaran won the small settlement. She won $8,200, which she then used to start schools in her village. More money poured in from international donations when the men were set free. And as a result of her trial, the then president of Pakistan, General Musharraf, went on TV and said, “If you want to be a millionaire, just get yourself raped.”
But that night in the theater two years ago, the other six brave women came up on the stage. Anabella De Leon of Guatemala pointed to Hillary Clinton, who was sitting right in the front row, and said, “I met her and my life changed.” And all weekend long, women from all over the world said the same thing: 
“I’m alive because she came to my village, put her arm around me, and had a photograph taken together.” 
“I’m alive because she went on our local TV and talked about my work, and now they’re afraid to kill me.”
“I’m alive because she came to my country and she talked to our leaders, because I heard her speak, because I read about her.”
“I’m here today because of that, because of those stores.”
I didn’t know about this. I never knew any of it. And I think everybody should know. This hidden history Hillary has, the story of her parallel agenda, the shadow diplomacy unheralded, uncelebrated — careful, constant work on behalf of women and girls that she has always conducted alongside everything else a First Lady, a Senator, and now Secretary of State is obliged to do.
And it deserves to be amplified. This willingness to take it, to lead a revolution – and revelation, beginning in Beijing in 1995, when she first raised her voice to say the words you’ve heard many times throughout this conference: “Women’s Rights Are Human Rights.”
When Hillary Clinton stood up in Beijing to speak that truth, her hosts were not the only ones who didn’t necessarily want to hear it. Some of her husband’s advisors also were nervous about the speech, fearful of upsetting relations with China. But she faced down the opposition at home and abroad, and her words continue to hearten women around the world and have reverberated down the decades.
…
She’s just been busy working, doing it, making those words “Women’s Rights are Human Rights” into something every leader in every country now knows is a linchpin of American policy. It’s just so much more than a rhetorical triumph. We’re talking about what happened in the real world, the institutional change that was a result of that stand she took.
…
Now we know that the higher the education and the involvement of women in a culture and economy, the more secure the nation. It’s a metric we use throughout our foreign policy, and in fact, it’s at the core of our development policy. It is a big, important shift in thinking. Horrifying practices like female genital cutting were not at the top of the agenda because they were part of the culture and we didn’t want to be accused of imposing our own cultural values.
But what Hillary Clinton has said over and over again is, “A crime is a crime, and criminal behavior cannot be tolerated.” Everywhere she goes, she meets with the head of state and she meets with the women leaders of grassroots organizations in each country. This goes automatically on her schedule. As you’ve seen, when she went to Burma – our first government trip there in 40 years. She met with its dictator and then she met with Aung San Suu Kyi, the woman he kept under detention for 15 years, the leader of Burma’s pro-democracy movement.
This isn’t just symbolism. It’s how you change the world. These are the words of Dr. Gao Yaojie of China: “I will never forget our first meeting. She said I reminded her of her mother. And she noticed my small bound feet. I didn’t need to explain too much, and she understood completely. I could tell how much she wanted to understand what I, an 80-something year old lady, went through in China – the Cultural Revolution, uncovering the largest tainted blood scandal in China, house arrest, forced family separation. I talked about it like nothing and I joked about it, but she understood me as a person, a mother, a doctor. She knew what I really went through.”
When Vera Stremkovskaya, a lawyer and human rights activist from Belarus met Hillary Clinton a few years ago, they took a photograph together. And she said to one of the Secretary’s colleagues, “I want that picture.” And the colleague said, “I will get you that picture as soon as possible.” And Stremkovskaya said, “I need that picture.” And the colleague said, “I promise you.” And Stremkovskaya said, “You don’t understand. That picture will be my bullet-proof vest.”
Never give up. Never, never, never, never, never give up. That is what Hillary Clinton embodies.



As if I needed more reasons to love this amazing woman!

fjakfdjslfs everything in this article is amazing
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You won’t see Hillary Clinton in the same light ever again. Read Meryl Streep’s introduction of Hillary Clinton during the recent 2012 Women in the World conference:

Two years ago when Tina Brown and Diane von Furstenberg first envisioned this conference, they asked me to do a play, a reading, called – the name of the play was called Seven. It was taken from transcripts, real testimony from real women activists around the world. I was the Irish one, and I had no idea that the real women would be sitting in the audience while we portrayed them. So I was doing a pretty ghastly Belfast accent. I was just – I was imitating my friend Liam Neeson, really, and I sounded like a fellow. (Laughter). It was really bad.

So I was so mortified when Tina, at the end of the play, invited the real women to come up on stage and I found myself standing next to the great Inez McCormack. (Applause.) And I felt slight next to her, because I’m an actress and she is the real deal. She has put her life on the line. Six of those seven women were with us in the theater that night. The seventh, Mukhtaran Bibi, couldn’t come because she couldn’t get out of Pakistan. You probably remember who she is. She’s the young woman who went to court because she was gang-raped by men in her village as punishment for a perceived slight to their honor by her little brother. All but one of the 14 men accused were acquitted, but Mukhtaran won the small settlement. She won $8,200, which she then used to start schools in her village. More money poured in from international donations when the men were set free. And as a result of her trial, the then president of Pakistan, General Musharraf, went on TV and said, “If you want to be a millionaire, just get yourself raped.”

But that night in the theater two years ago, the other six brave women came up on the stage. Anabella De Leon of Guatemala pointed to Hillary Clinton, who was sitting right in the front row, and said, “I met her and my life changed.” And all weekend long, women from all over the world said the same thing:

“I’m alive because she came to my village, put her arm around me, and had a photograph taken together.”

“I’m alive because she went on our local TV and talked about my work, and now they’re afraid to kill me.”

“I’m alive because she came to my country and she talked to our leaders, because I heard her speak, because I read about her.”

“I’m here today because of that, because of those stores.”

I didn’t know about this. I never knew any of it. And I think everybody should know. This hidden history Hillary has, the story of her parallel agenda, the shadow diplomacy unheralded, uncelebrated — careful, constant work on behalf of women and girls that she has always conducted alongside everything else a First Lady, a Senator, and now Secretary of State is obliged to do.

And it deserves to be amplified. This willingness to take it, to lead a revolution – and revelation, beginning in Beijing in 1995, when she first raised her voice to say the words you’ve heard many times throughout this conference: “Women’s Rights Are Human Rights.”

When Hillary Clinton stood up in Beijing to speak that truth, her hosts were not the only ones who didn’t necessarily want to hear it. Some of her husband’s advisors also were nervous about the speech, fearful of upsetting relations with China. But she faced down the opposition at home and abroad, and her words continue to hearten women around the world and have reverberated down the decades.

…

She’s just been busy working, doing it, making those words “Women’s Rights are Human Rights” into something every leader in every country now knows is a linchpin of American policy. It’s just so much more than a rhetorical triumph. We’re talking about what happened in the real world, the institutional change that was a result of that stand she took.

…

Now we know that the higher the education and the involvement of women in a culture and economy, the more secure the nation. It’s a metric we use throughout our foreign policy, and in fact, it’s at the core of our development policy. It is a big, important shift in thinking. Horrifying practices like female genital cutting were not at the top of the agenda because they were part of the culture and we didn’t want to be accused of imposing our own cultural values.

But what Hillary Clinton has said over and over again is, “A crime is a crime, and criminal behavior cannot be tolerated.” Everywhere she goes, she meets with the head of state and she meets with the women leaders of grassroots organizations in each country. This goes automatically on her schedule. As you’ve seen, when she went to Burma – our first government trip there in 40 years. She met with its dictator and then she met with Aung San Suu Kyi, the woman he kept under detention for 15 years, the leader of Burma’s pro-democracy movement.

This isn’t just symbolism. It’s how you change the world. These are the words of Dr. Gao Yaojie of China: “I will never forget our first meeting. She said I reminded her of her mother. And she noticed my small bound feet. I didn’t need to explain too much, and she understood completely. I could tell how much she wanted to understand what I, an 80-something year old lady, went through in China – the Cultural Revolution, uncovering the largest tainted blood scandal in China, house arrest, forced family separation. I talked about it like nothing and I joked about it, but she understood me as a person, a mother, a doctor. She knew what I really went through.”

When Vera Stremkovskaya, a lawyer and human rights activist from Belarus met Hillary Clinton a few years ago, they took a photograph together. And she said to one of the Secretary’s colleagues, “I want that picture.” And the colleague said, “I will get you that picture as soon as possible.” And Stremkovskaya said, “I need that picture.” And the colleague said, “I promise you.” And Stremkovskaya said, “You don’t understand. That picture will be my bullet-proof vest.”

Never give up. Never, never, never, never, never give up. That is what Hillary Clinton embodies.

As if I needed more reasons to love this amazing woman!

fjakfdjslfs everything in this article is amazing

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Rape victims say military labels them 'crazy' - CNN.com

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Stephanie Schroeder joined the U.S. Marine Corps not long after 9/11. She was a 21-year-old with an associate’s degree when she reported for boot camp at Parris Island, South Carolina. “I felt like it was the right thing to do,” Schroeder recalls. A year and a half later, the Marines diagnosed her with a personality disorder and deemed her psychologically unfit for the Corps.

Anna Moore enlisted in the Army after 9/11 and planned to make a career of it. Moore was a Patriot missile battery operator in Germany when she was diagnosed with a personality disorder and dismissed from the Army.

Jenny McClendon was serving as a sonar operator on a Navy destroyer when she received her personality disorder diagnosis.

These women joined different branches of the military but they share a common experience: Each received the psychiatric diagnosis and military discharge after reporting a sexual assault.

Military records show the personality disorder diagnosis is being used disproportionately on women, according to military records obtained by Yale Law School’s Veterans Legal Services Clinic under a Freedom of Information Act request.

  • In the Army, 16% of all soldiers are women, but females constitute 24% of all personality disorder discharges.
  • Air Force: women make up 21% of the ranks and 35% of personality disorder discharges.
  • Navy: 17% of sailors are women and 26% of personality disorder discharges
  • Marines: 7% of the Corps and 14% of personality disorder discharges

The records don’t reflect how many of those women had reported sexual assault.

(via stfuconservatives)

Source: CNN

    • #SO MUCH RAGE
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    • #marines
    • #military
    • #misogyny
    • #personality disorders
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    • #trigger warning
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Resources for Male Survivors

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I posted last week asking people if they knew of some good resources for male victims of sexual assault. Here is the list people came up with:

www.malesurvivor.org

www.violenceunsilenced.com

www.rainn.org

www.pandys.org

www.1in6.org

www.soulspeakout.org

Thanks everyone!

hay y’all i thought i would follow up a post about male rape and male survivors i made a few weeks back with this - rape is serious regardless of the gender of the victim and it’s important to note that!

Survivors (charity) in the UK are running an ad campaign on the Tube at the moment specifically to inform people about male rape.

Important signal boost. Male rape is vastly underreported, not taken seriously, even made into jokes. It happens. And, while less common, it’s not just perpetrated by other men - it’s just the least likely to be believed or reported if it isn’t.

Things like that make me so angry. It’s actually incredibly misogynist and homophobic to ignore male rape, as if being raped is IN ITSELF an act of femininity — how horrific. Or that the mere act of male penetration could make someone gay. It’s cissexist, because it assumes things about penetration, the genitalia of the perpetrators and survivors, etc. It’s ignorant about rape because it assumes only forcible rape is rape and that authority, age or fear has nothing to do with it. And it’s also victim blaming toward the men (or boys) and perpetrating of a rape culture in general.

And to be honest, half the time it’s ‘feminists’ who are prolonging these sentiments as WELL as ordinary bro types joking about not dropping the soap or whatnot!

ARG SO MANY FEELINGS ABOUT THIS SUBJECT.

Source: letstalkaboutrape

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    • #signal boost
    • #gender norms
    • #rape culture
    • #victim blaming
    • #homophobia
    • #misogyny
    • #cissexism
    • #sexism
    • #feelings
    • #child abuse
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    • #sexual abuse
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Dear everyone remotely connected to Jezebel:

TRIGGER WARNING. LOTS OF TRIGGER WARNING.

anedumacation:

Now would be a great time to resign in protest.

What they just did, which was, let me remind you, posting screencaps of a woman’s rape that was uploaded to youtube, that goes so far beyond the pale of human decency….

I cannot believe they thought this was okay simply because they hid the identity of the woman.

There are survivors on that staff, or there were, last time I was at Jezebel. Any woman with her head screwed on straight can tell you that this shit is not okay. 

Fuck them, fuck the Gawker network, and fuck the enablers. 

I’m not in a headspace to actually get any background on the story right now or what context there could possibly be for doing this, but if you have some and would like to yell about it at someone:

Tip your editors: tips@jezebel.com
Phone: 347-687-4824

(You can also find email addresses for the rest of the staff at Jezebel.com/about.)

I don’t fucking care if this was posted as a Dirtbag column, if this was in the context of how terrible it was — if you think it’s terrible THEN DON’T ADD TO HOW HORRIFYING IT COULD BE. You have survivors on the team, you have survivors as readers and you’re forcing someone else to be criticized and critiqued by virtue of THEIR OWN RAPE being in the media.

What’s really obnoxious is also that I can’t even delete my account because once you’re signed in to Gawker as a commenter, you can’t, afaik, delete out of protest. You can take yourself off the mailing list which I did last time they fucked up, a while ago, but you can’t even affect their member count. (Also how much does it piss me off that LifeHacker is part of the Gawker network? A lot!)

Okay, too angry, gotta get off the internet.

(via garlandgrey-deactivated20120712)

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    • #trigger warning
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    • #rape culture
    • #video
    • #jezebel
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    • #gawker
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crankyskirt:

wifwolf:


lookoutsideyourself:
Still Not a Joke — Good Awareness Campaign From Just Detention International

THIS IS IMPORTANT.

Send a message to an incarcerated sexual abuse survivor - it’ll barely take any time out of your day, and it’s worth it to send some small kindness to a stranger.
Zoom Info
crankyskirt:

wifwolf:


lookoutsideyourself:
Still Not a Joke — Good Awareness Campaign From Just Detention International

THIS IS IMPORTANT.

Send a message to an incarcerated sexual abuse survivor - it’ll barely take any time out of your day, and it’s worth it to send some small kindness to a stranger.
Zoom Info
crankyskirt:

wifwolf:


lookoutsideyourself:
Still Not a Joke — Good Awareness Campaign From Just Detention International

THIS IS IMPORTANT.

Send a message to an incarcerated sexual abuse survivor - it’ll barely take any time out of your day, and it’s worth it to send some small kindness to a stranger.
Zoom Info
crankyskirt:

wifwolf:


lookoutsideyourself:
Still Not a Joke — Good Awareness Campaign From Just Detention International

THIS IS IMPORTANT.

Send a message to an incarcerated sexual abuse survivor - it’ll barely take any time out of your day, and it’s worth it to send some small kindness to a stranger.
Zoom Info
crankyskirt:

wifwolf:


lookoutsideyourself:
Still Not a Joke — Good Awareness Campaign From Just Detention International

THIS IS IMPORTANT.

Send a message to an incarcerated sexual abuse survivor - it’ll barely take any time out of your day, and it’s worth it to send some small kindness to a stranger.
Zoom Info
crankyskirt:

wifwolf:


lookoutsideyourself:
Still Not a Joke — Good Awareness Campaign From Just Detention International

THIS IS IMPORTANT.

Send a message to an incarcerated sexual abuse survivor - it’ll barely take any time out of your day, and it’s worth it to send some small kindness to a stranger.
Zoom Info

crankyskirt:

wifwolf:

lookoutsideyourself:

Still Not a Joke — Good Awareness Campaign From Just Detention International

THIS IS IMPORTANT.

Send a message to an incarcerated sexual abuse survivor - it’ll barely take any time out of your day, and it’s worth it to send some small kindness to a stranger.

(via platoons)

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    • #trigger warning
    • #rape
    • #prison rape
    • #sexual assault
    • #things that aren't punchlines
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Justice Department officials informed service providers around the state this month it plans to cut grants from its Sexual Assault Victim Services program by 42.5 percent this year. The announcement blindsided service providers who rely on the grants to pay for therapy, crisis intervention and education. They expected cuts, they said, but never thought they would be so dramatic.

State DOJ plans to reduce sex assault victim grants by 42.5 percent

honestly, every single republican in the state government from Scott Walker can fuck right off. right now. every single one of them.

(via soliloquize)

This was posted december 4th, it says the cuts aren’t final yet - they still have to be completely approved. Anybody have ideas on how we can help? Letter writing, phone calls, petitions? Anybody down to try and help wisconsin? I’m ready, let me know!

(via peecharrific)

Good call! I am totally down to help. Wisconsin folks - is there anything we can do? Is there a petition out there already? Who in the DOJ should we be calling/writing? I am not as familiar with Wisconsin politics & structure as I am with Illinois politics & structure, unfortunately.

(via rebelrebelbatcat)

(via stfuconservatives)

Source: soliloquize

    • #sexual assault
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    • #therapy
    • #rape
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    • #GOP
    • #politics
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Give your children words, about themselves, and their body. Naming is powerful. Teach them that they have a right to their body, that no one, not even you, own them, or have rights to their body. That they always and forever belong to themselves, always. Teach them what bodies do. Yes, even at a young age. I promise you, keeping kids in the dark will not stop sexual exploration. It will not magically make them innocent. It will just make them alone in the dark.
somaticstrength: Your innocence will not save you: conservative Christianity and childhood sexual abuse. Trigger warning: childhood sexual violence/abuse. (via feminismduh)

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[TRIGGER WARNING]

I am over being polite about rape. It’s been too long now, we have been too understanding.

We need to OCCUPYRAPE in every school, park, radio, TV station, household, office, factory, refugee camp, military base, back room, night club, alleyway, courtroom, UN office. We need people to truly try and imagine — once and for all — what it feels like to have your body invaded, your mind splintered, your soul shattered. We need to let our rage and our compassion connect us so we can change the paradigm of global rape.

There are approximately one billion women on the planet who have been violated. ONE BILLION WOMEN.

The time is now. Prepare for the escalation. Today it begins, moving toward February 14, 2013, when one billion women will rise to end rape.

Because we are over it.

Eve Ensler: Over It

The entire article is worth reading.

Source: The Huffington Post

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